Thursday, January 8, 2009

Growing up is hard to do

I have found the one thing in this world that is worse than my first "official break-up" - it is that of my child. The romance is over, Tyler has spent the last two weeks in Florida and upon his arrival home has told Claire that "it's not working".

Claire has gone through her stages of grief:
  • Sadness
  • Anger
  • Talking on the phone with girlfriends
  • Ice Cream
In years to come, these stages will be joined by watching sappy movies; wearing pajamas for days on end; and, a red nose as a result of much kleenex use, but that will have to wait.

I am so sad for her, but in my own warped-mama way, thrilled that now we can focus on other things - like schoolwork and her new captaincy of the swim team.

Though, can I say, the resilience of youth is amazing. Claire was a puddle of tears when we left (at her insistence) for Cole's hockey game - I'm glad not to have missed it, he got his very first First Star - sometime around 6PM. By the time we returned at 10PM she was chatty, engaging and tear-free. It may be bluster, but she's talking like an mature, rational, grown up person.

Huh? Where'd she come from? I was unprepared for her grown-up transition. It's Louis' belief that she's proving to be my kid. No drama. No more tears. No anger. Just determination to move onward.

So, onward it is.


jillconyers said...

Oh I remember the "break ups". I remember feeling like it's the end of the world LOL She'll get through this just like we did.

Lee I love your 365 blog! Great photos documenting the beginning of a new year.

MidniteScrapper said...

Oh, poor girl. They are growing up fast. So glad that she's on the mend. She'll be stronger for it.

Heather said...

So sorry for her. BUT now she can move on to better things and eventually other boys who will be even better than tyler! It's hard to be a teenage girl but she sounds like a fabulous one!

shirley said...

Oh, I feel for her. Such a tough situation, and (I know this is SO cliche) she will someday realize it was for the best.

Julie said...

Oh how I remember my first heartbreak as a teenager. It's never easy. I also know what you are going through as a mother dealing with a heartbroken teen. Let Claire know that her cousin is going through at the moment, another breakup with the same girl. They will both get through this.

Char said...

Oh Sweet Claire - I feel for her. So tough, I remember those days!
Tell Claire I will be happy to indulge in ice cream with her!!

Jayne said...

I sure remember those days...good for you for handling it well!